Hi, there! Here’s another question one of you sent in that I’m answering today. It’s a good one, one I often get, and I hope it’ll help.

Q: I have a friend who annoyingly, always has a boyfriend. The minute one relationship ends, she finds another boyfriend right away. Why is it so easy for her and so hard for me? I haven’t even dated anyone in over a year. Why her and not me?!

A: Great question, and one I often get asked. Yes, your friend has something you don’t, but it’s not what you think. And just to reassure you, I often have folks in a similar position PASS their friend by finding love and getting married while the friend is still going through boyfriend after boyfriend. It’s not a competition, but if it were, you don’t LOSE.

What your friend has that you don’t is the following:

a) A good template for having a boyfriend. She’s used to it, so it’s easier to manifest again. I’ll bet you have some areas in your life that are easy for you, too.

b) Faith that she gets love, that someone out there will be right for her and that she’s lovable.

If you lack the above, then it’s probably interfering with your ability to manifest love. But the good news is that there are ways to develop these things and manifest so easily you can’t believe it.

S

If there is something that eludes you, either one of two things are going on:

1) You are conflicted about it even if you think you want it.

For example, you want love but you secretly fear that if you find the right person, you’ll be stuck and lose your freedom.

When you’re not lined up with a dream, it is much harder to manifest it.

2) You have a long history of impossibility thinking about your desire. There’s so much negativity that you’re sure you can’t have it.

For example, one person I worked with had it drilled into her head since childhood that being wealthy was pie in the sky. She came from a working class family that struggled with money.

She was sure that prosperity was difficult. She could not have money until she let go of that large body of thought she had accumulated that affirmed she would always live hand-to-mouth.

Can you imagine having what you want or does it seem very far away?

If it’s the latter, you have some work to do.

love,

Kathryn