Q: Kathryn, I have always settled in relationship and have never ever dated someone I could see marrying

One of my friends told me about your work in which you teach that being picky is good

What?! That's so opposite of what I've always been told

To be honest, I'm petrified of any guy who seems promising and they feel way out of my league

So what should I do? Should I TRY to date out of my league?

A: People have some strange ideas about love, and one stands out as the absolute worst one if you want to find the love of your life.

That is the concept of Dating Our of Your League (I call this UPDATING)

•Almost every single I’ve worked with is occasionally intimidated by someone they find attractive. 

•And yet, that person is the most likely to be their soulmate.

•that you will have crackling chemistry with your One.

•The good news is there is NO SUCH THING as updating. No one is out of your league. We are all equal.

•But coming together with your soulmate can stress you out, if you (and this is common) buy into the idea of updating.

•Folks who believe in updating (even unknowingly) will always think their soulmate is out of their league.

•Why? Because this is the hottest person you’ve ever met.

•The solution is to get rid of the updating concept and elevate yourself to a place where no one is out of reach for you.

I will write more about this in the coming weeks. I know it's a topic that needs addressing so stay turned for more

In the meantime, start thinking of yourself as more of a catch -- as worthy as any great guy you see

We need to work on this or else you are consigned to being continually disappointed in your love life

I bless you for knowing just how worthy you are of someone special to you!

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Q: Wow, Kathryn! I did your Soulmate Bootcamp, and I’m now faced with what you call a “quality problem”
I’ve met the hottest guy I’ve ever laid eyes on and we’ve been on a couple of dates
But I’m completely intimidated by him. He feels WAY out of my league!!!!

It’s a miracle I’ve gotten through two dates with him, and we have another one coming up this weekend
How can I not blow it with him? I’m sure he’s going to lose interest any minute, especially with me acting all nervous and stuff
What can I do? I’d be so grateful for your input – thank you!
A: Almost every single I’ve worked with is occasionally intimidated by someone they find attractive

And yet, that person is the most likely to be their soulmate (and this guy may be yours)
Remember that you will have crackling chemistry with your One, so it’s a really good sign that you are super attracted to this man
The good news is no one is out of your league. We are all equal.
The solution is:
• get rid of the idea that he’s above you
• elevate yourself to a place where he is NOT out of reach for you
• I would look for ways to boost your self-esteem so you feel worthy of him
• being self-conscious is kind of selfish – it’s all about YOU
• so instead focus on him and your connection together
• this should get you out of the worst of your intimidation
 

I bless you for getting the HOT love you deserve – get used to it because you do GET THIS