Q: Kathryn, I got one of your courses, did the work and it was amazing how fast I connected with a guy right out of my dreams. He's everything I want.

We have been going hot and heavy for a few months, but all of a sudden he has been pulling back. We still see each other, but he is not calling every day any more. Our dates are more sporadic, and it just feels awful. It feels like he is losing interest.

Should I just give up on him? What is going on and is there anything I can do about it?

A: I'm sorry you are going through this, but it's not that unusual. In every budding romance, there can be some pulling back from both sides.

Why? Because freedom is a deeper need than love, and every one of us needs to know that we can be free when we need to. He could be testing you or just ensuring that this is right.

Do you need to give up? No, not yet. First, I would try a protocol I use on people to give space.

At this moment, it can feel like you should cling on to him, but we want to do the opposite - give him room. Here's how:

1. Do some release work internally, so you're not allowing yourself to think of him so much. Take most of your eggs out of his basket.

2. Pull back externally, too, allowing him some room rather than going clingy. Don't text, don't email, don't call but wait for him to contact you just to give him room. Keep your exchanges brief. Let him do most of the "heavy lifting" here. As anyone who has done my release work knows too well, weird stuff happens when you let go. Inevitably, you hear from the person you're releasing.

3. Focus elsewhere. Get busy with other things in your life. And give other people a chance, too. Be open to other dates, flirt when you get the chance and take the pressure off of the relationship.

Remember you get love no matter what. It may not be him, but it's someone better if not. If it IS him, you'll give him the space to realize that and reassure him you are not going to choke his freedom.

For anyone reading this who is in a relationship, holding on loosely is the best policy. It means you have faith in the relationship.

I'm sending you love & support.

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Q: Kathryn, last night, I met this guy who I am really attracted to. He is handsome, smart and fun. We spoke a while but then he moved on. I said good-bye when we left, but he didn’t ask for my number, and I am disappointed

This happens over and over again to me. I just can’t get anyone who I want interested in me. Is there any way to change that?

A: Yes! You can get someone interested in you by changing what you’re doing

I just had a glorious engagement happen for a client who had this same issue. She did the following steps which resulted in the hottest guy she has ever seen getting on his knee a few days ago and asking for her hand in marriage

1. Be centered when interacting. People can sniff out nervousness or desperation in a heartbeat, and it will send them packing

2. Don’t try to be a wit. Instead get him talking about himself. Ask deep questions, listen intently and use this connection you foster to create an emotional bond. When you do this well, he won’t be able to stop thinking about you

3. Leave him wanting more. There is a way to do this that is not manipulative but instead honoring of your new connection.  Research shows there are certain words you can say right at the beginning that will set you up perfectly to ensure he can not get you out of his head. Then, there is no way he would leave without getting your number

My newly engaged client had been in the friend zone with a guy she had a crush on. She watched him date a few other women and pass her by for weeks until we worked on the above 3 steps in the way I’ve perfected while working with thousands of people

Then out of the blue, her crush confessed feelings for her. She had worked on the bonding I taught her, and suddenly he only had eyes for her. It surprised them both (but not me). The rest is history!

I bless you for turning on that magnet and never getting passed over again. It’s easier than you think

Sorry to keep you in suspense about the third deadly mistake that guarantees you won’t meet anyone

But this is the BIGGEST one -- and deserves a whole email of its own

I had one of my Aruba attendees meet someone as if she had ordered him up

He is really into her. It’s looking very hopeful. They fit like a glove together and are totally infatuated with one another

He’s calling her and texting all the time. He is the hottest guy she has ever had contact with

And guess what? She had to do this very thing I’m about to tell you that she learned during the Aruba retreat

If she had not done this thing, she still would not have met him

This is someone who has been single a long, long time with a lot of misfires

And what she learned made all of the difference

She met him organically – out in the world as she was going about her day – as most people do

No matching service could have done better than how perfect they are for each other!

So here’s the mistake she was making and what we had to do to correct it

The Third Big Mistakes that Keeps Love From You

Mistake #3: Not knowing how to connect with the one you want

Do you know what to do when you encounter someone attractive to you? How to spark their interest?

Do you know how to take it deeper and create a bond with a person you’re dating and very into?

Do you know how to ensure that it stays sizzling so there’s no chance you’ll get disappointed?

Most people don’t. And that’s where I can help

With my Aruba client, she had always shied away from attractive guys, sure they wouldn’t be interested in her

And I had to remind her that the hottest person you encounter is most likely to be your soulmate

Because you and your soulmate will have crackling chemistry

Most people tend to get intimated by someone that wows them, tongue-tied or worse, just shrink into the wordwork, sure that someone like that would not be interested

This was Aruba gal's pattern. She would not even talk to a guy she found hot. It was easier, less risky

So it’s no wonder she had always settled and has been single for far too long

But after practicing with me, what did she do?

She returned this hot guy’s gaze, smiled and used the technique we had worked on in Aruba

It worked like a charm! He came up to her to talk, and before she knew it, he was asking for her contact info and texted her two hours later

Now, they are infatuated, having long phone conversations and going on dates every chance they get

He has already sent her flowers, and she is having to get used to how much this attractive man wants to give to her

She continues to do what I taught her, and it is showing no signs of fizzling

She learned how to keep it hot and growing, something you must do to take the relationship the whole way in. And it continues to roll out perfectly

This is something I’d love to teach you, too

Love can happen just as quickly for you, as you learn a new way of connecting that brings the hottest ones right to you, gets you into a dating relationship and takes it the whole way – as far as you want to go with it

I know you can’t wait to be in your soulmate’s arms for good, and I’m committed to helping you get there!