1. Q: Kathryn, could my soulmate be married to someone else?
A. No! The shocking truth is that your soulmate is not taken. You get better than that. But when you're single, you have a place in you that wants love that is vulnerable. And it's easy to get excited and settle for someone who's not available. (This truth is only shocking if you are sure your soulmate is someone married or in a relationship, and you're waiting for them.)
Dancing around with someone taken is beneath you. You're settling. And you're keeping yourself unavailable for true love. Read on to find out more about that particular defense mechanism.
But bottom line, you deserve more than someone who is not completely available to you. The Universe would not dangle someone in front of you who cannot easily move forward into a full-on relationship.
2. Q: Kathryn, I've heard you say that my bad pattern is a defense and keeps love away. You were referring to my work. How can my demanding job be a bad pattern?!
A: The shocking truth is that things you may deem normal in your life are often barriers to love. And you have adopted them intentionally.
Yep, here are some examples including yours.
The problem with these defense mechanisms -- designed to keep you safe -- is that they keep love out. You're unavailable until you can drop these patterns.
3. Q: Kathryn, can I really find love at any moment? It feels so very far away.
A: Shocking Truth #3 is that yes, no matter how despairing you are, love can still be right around the corner and creep up on you any moment.
It just takes some slight adjustments to have love rush into your life. You can only hold love at bay for so long, and then, it happens. Those who do my work have love show up in the most magical, unpredictable ways. And in one instant, life is changed forever.