Can I date out of my league?!

Q: Kathryn, I have always settled in relationship and have never ever dated someone I could see marrying

One of my friends told me about your work in which you teach that being picky is good

What?! That's so opposite of what I've always been told

To be honest, I'm petrified of any guy who seems promising and they feel way out of my league

So what should I do? Should I TRY to date out of my league?

A: People have some strange ideas about love, and one stands out as the absolute worst one if you want to find the love of your life.

That is the concept of Dating Our of Your League (I call this UPDATING)

•Almost every single I’ve worked with is occasionally intimidated by someone they find attractive. 

•And yet, that person is the most likely to be their soulmate.

•that you will have crackling chemistry with your One.

•The good news is there is NO SUCH THING as updating. No one is out of your league. We are all equal.

•But coming together with your soulmate can stress you out, if you (and this is common) buy into the idea of updating.

•Folks who believe in updating (even unknowingly) will always think their soulmate is out of their league.

•Why? Because this is the hottest person you’ve ever met.

•The solution is to get rid of the updating concept and elevate yourself to a place where no one is out of reach for you.

I will write more about this in the coming weeks. I know it's a topic that needs addressing so stay turned for more

In the meantime, start thinking of yourself as more of a catch -- as worthy as any great guy you see

We need to work on this or else you are consigned to being continually disappointed in your love life

I bless you for knowing just how worthy you are of someone special to you!