the SCARY part!! Step 3

I have to admit that Step 3 of gaining confidence can be downright SCARY
 
If you have ever choked in the moment, sabotaged yourself or crumpled into feeling paralyzed, you need this step!

Step 3 is to start acting differently, expanding yourself into those places that have stymied you in the past

This can take some work

And to be honest, this is where hand-holding or having an effective process to lean into makes all of the difference

Situational self-esteem issues are the toughest to overcome

Let’s say you’re faced with dealing with a person who intimidates you

You feel this person is beyond you – whether it’s your boss or an attractive person you’d like to connect with

The reason that any person or situation is daunting is because you’re not up to speed with it

What works to keep you from choking again in a pivotal moment?

It's to prepave and to practice

This is something I often do with those I work with, and it has produced amazing results

Preparing well for such an occurrence can help

And then stepping out to tackle this place where you choke is crucial

Prepave for people and situations that have been hard for you, and then tackle them

• One woman who went through this program could not imagine a hot guy she liked actually returning her interest

• She really choked when faced with someone attractive to her

• She also felt that everyone at work was more important than her and subsisted on a barely living wage

• I had to laugh at how much resistance came up for her when she decided to change things (deciding to change only happened when she spent a whole weekend eating ice cream and crying over her wreck of a life until she got fed up and vowed to do something differently)


• Her reaction to undergoing the changes? She got sick: LOL!

• Then, she procrastinated and binge watched a whole series rather than take any steps

• And she would get so very nervous when thinking about stepping out of her comfort zone

• But the magic of the Self-Esteem Kit -- that undeniable process -- started working on her

• It led her through baby steps that were easy to do and not super scary

• Until she was operating in a different place -- and began thinking of herself differently

• Suddenly things started to go her way

• And she actually got inspired at how well it was going. At that point, she quit putting things off and dove in with both feet

• She used the biggest secret of that process (hint: it involved donning a new avatar of who you are and it is POWERFUL) to attract a guy who previously would have felt was out of her league

• And she flat out quit the lowly job and started applying for positions that had felt out of reach

• It all culminated in an elopement with the hot guy (she still pinches herself that she has a husband that she can't quit staring at) and a job that makes more money and gives her a level of respect that she has finally gotten used to

Just as we saw with her, dealing with self-esteem issues in motion is quite powerful, and will change your life for good

This practice involves actually raising your setpoint – what you’re comfortable with and the level you’re operating on – and all kinds of resistance will come up (that's exactly how your fear will paralyze you and keep you from actually getting what you want)

In-the-moment self-esteem boosting is the only way to handle these pockets of low confidence effectively