Dating Out of Your League #5: do the OPPOSITE of your instinct

Step #5 is something that seems counterintuition but seals the deal with the one you want

In Step 5, we continue on how to behave when you connect with someone you are intimidated by

This is the connection part

I know this sounds weird but in this case, you have to fight your instinct

STEP #5 TO DATING OUT OF YOUR LEAGUE

So what is Step #5?

Act differently than your instinct

- So far your instinct hasn't served you or you would be with your soulmate

- The problem is that most people, when they see someone they feel is out of their league, get intimidated

- And being intimidated means you act out of fear rather than faith

- This is where you go wrong

- To go against your instinct, we have to do things differently

HOW TO DO THIS

In Steps 1 - 4, you learned how to attract someone and how to start connecting well

But even if you attract someone you consider out of your league, most people blow it

What they do next doesn't work

• They get clingy & paranoid this person will leave

• They act from a fear based place

• Desperation repels, and so this will drive the person away from you

• So we have to do the opposite of your instinct

• You need to be hard to get

• This is the faith-based position

• Act as though you are a catch (you are) and don't be overly available

• This is not manipulation when you mean it

SHE LOST THEM ALL

I once worked with a woman who had high standards

She was selective, and all of her friends told her to be less picky

I told her to stay picky

That wasn't the problem

She connected with a few hot guys over the years, but would blow it shortly after

They all went away

She would get clingy, demanding, need reassurance and create drama

Our work changed that so she calmed down and stayed more centered

She also did the steps I told her to be hard-to-get in a GOOD way

It worked!

She attracted the most handsome, wonderful and successful man she had ever met

This time, she did not center her whole life around him

She held on loosely, which is wildly magnetic

And it lasted!

He proposed within just 4 months, saying he had never met a woman like her

(All previous loves had chased him wildly)

The fact is that when you act according to who you really are - a catch - you can get anyone you want . . and keep them

As my now happily-married client will attest to

YOUR HOMEWORK

1. Using Steps 1 - 4  (these steps are being posted on my blog if you need to catch up) attract the ones you want

2. As you connect, do not fawn over them but treat them as an equal

3. Don't act hard-to-get, be hard-to-get. This person should prove himself to you -- that he is serious and interested

4. We're not paying games here, but holding on loosely and not being super caught up in the romance until well into it is magic. It is very magnetic so as you fight your instinct to cling, you will see people go crazy over you!

This is the last in the Dating Out of Your League Series. Hope you've enjoyed it.