Crackling chemistry is a sign it's your soulmate -- though chemistry alone is not enough. 

There are ways to know if there's chemistry pretty quickly -- I detail this in the video (the last of my summer teaching tour videos -- shot on a boat near a glacier in Alaska)

If you are in doubt about the attraction between you and someone you're seeing, this will help you out.

Make SURE you include chemistry prominently on the list of things you're looking for in your mate. The other one I always ask people to add is "available" -- a whole other subject.

Enjoy, and let's connect again soon!


One of the biggest questions I get from singles is how to connect with someone super attractive to them.

No matter how outgoing you are, you can get tongue-tied when faced with a hottie. Fear of rejection or sheer intimidation can kick in.

If you do not learn to connect with those you are attracted to you, you rule out those most likely to be your soulmate. So, we HAVE to tackle this issue!

Here's my easy two step formula to learning to connect with those you are attracted to:

1. Boost yourself up. Remind yourself you are not chopped liver. Put yourself up on that pedestal with this hottie, and remember that they are lucky to connect with you. You are a good conversationalist, and have something they want.

2. Be sensitive to this person. Rather than trying to come across as a big wit, put on your listening cap and think about who this person is and what (s)he might need. Ask him or her a question. Bring them out, and you don't have to worry about what to say.

You don't want to approach them with any big agenda. Instead, the sole intention is to connect. The rest can come later.

I have had a phenomenal success rate with the shy and the introverted by using this method, which plays to their strengths.

You will get better with practice, so my challenge to you is to try this method on 3 people you are attracted to this week.