A man at a Sydney book lecture asked a great question. He wanted to know how you tell the difference between divine guidance and your own deluded thinking especially in love matters. Are there Soulmate signs? The fact is that many of us, in the throes of a deep attachment toward another, are SURE that the person is our Soulmate. And this energy can be so strong that a psychic may even read the energy as meaning you two are meant to be together.

BUT the man who asked the question admitted he had pined away for several women that his "intuition" said were his Soulmate, only for it not to work out. The fact is that intuition CAN'T COME THROUGH when it is being clouded by your own wishful thinking. There is a voice I call the Voice of Attachment that sounds very real, there are necessarily no Soulmate signs to know if someone is your Soulmate.

The measure of whether the message you're getting is attachment or intuition is this -- are you in a centered, unattached place when you hear the voice? Or are you hopelessly obsessing over someone? If it's the latter (and especially if you have a pattern of mistaking attachment for Soulmate signs or messages like this man), best to err on the side of caution, and do some release work.

When your TRUE Soulmate appears, there will be no doubt and things will work out with NO second guessing and NO agony. Hold out for that. It'll be worth the wait!!


When you are in pain over someone, there can be a tendency to over-dramatize the whole thing, and it may be difficult getting over heartbreak. Yes, you are hurting, but exaggerating how awful the other person is, how victimized you are or how you just lost the love of your life is not doing yourself a favor; it will only make the process of getting over heartbreak more complicated.

Yes, you are mourning a loss, but remind yourself that:

a - Your ex is only human. (S)he is not allowed to be on a pedestal nor cast as the biggest villain of all time

b - There are no victims, only volunteers after a certain point.

c - As soon as your attachment fades, you will no longer feel this is the best love you could ever want. Remind yourself NOW that you will have more love, and a love that will be more rewarding, AND that it is not kind to yourself to think you'll never get better. Therefore, getting over heartbreak is important.

Try to catch yourself when you go into tragedy/drama mode and rein yourself in for your OWN sake! Get back to positive thinking as quickly as you can by getting over heartbreak first.

This is not the end for you. There is more love, more joy and more living awaiting you. Remembering that will get you through the release more quickly.