Do you think you know everything about your mate? Wrong!
Every being is an endless well, and you can never get to the bottom of another person.
However, you can get into a rut where it starts feeling stale or old hat.
During our travels, I surprisingly learned a great deal about my husband of many years: things he knows (quantum physics), things he thinks about, things he can do (rescuing us in a storm on a sailboat, skillfully navigating a motorcycle even on wet, uneven pavement on a small island) and things he loves to do (driving in crazy, ridiculous traffic, like that of Paris and Thailand).
I challenge you to try a few new things this year in your relationship: go places, explore topics, take lessons, meditate together, hang out with new people, have some deep discussions. You will find renewal and the passion that goes along with keeping it dynamic, a delicious exploration of closeness.
If you are sick to death of being attached to someone who is not showing up, staying in a crazy love situation that has you off-balance or always falling for unavailable people and then being unable to shake the feelings for them, then I challenge you to try something different this year.
You really can let your past be your past, and turn over a new leaf. And I want this for you more than you know.
I recently got an email from a woman who spent 15 years of her life hanging on to past relationships while all she wanted was her true love. At age 40, weary of being so frustrated, she did my releasing work with a vengeance, met a whole new breed of guy (hot, available, into her), and it just WENT. She is now engaged, planning a fall wedding, a Moroccan honeymoon and starting a family quickly.
You can do this, too, no matter how wretched it has been. First comes the resolve, then the release and finally, the all-important replacement step.