Q: Kathryn, I’ve been dating the first man I’ve ever really been interested in for a couple of months.

At first, it was all rainbows and bliss, but he’s calling less often and takes forever to want to set a meeting up.

What do you think is going on? What can I do to reignite things?

A: Step 1 that I talk about in the free class “Become Irresistible”  can change everything for you. What is it?

Step 1 of Becoming Irresistible: Make an energy & mindset shift

 Get up to speed – if you think that you’re less than someone, that they’re out of your league or you have to work hard to keep them, you’re not up to speed with them.

This is a dangerous place to be in. It’s almost impossible to manifest with that attitude.

If you can get up to speed and have a different attitude about him, no matter how great he is – then it can change everything in an instant.

We tend to sabotage with anyone that feels out of reach, and you may be doing this without even knowing it.

 Stand in who you are – if you knew even a fraction of how amazing you are and stood in it, things would change quickly for you two, and he’d be beating down your door.

I call confidence “the universal attractant” because studies show that walking in the awareness of your value is always attractive to everyone unlike almost every other characteristic.

 Like turning on a light bulb – when you take the two above steps, it’s like flipping a switch.

I have helped people apply the above steps to a relationship that was slipping away, and every time the couple has ended up engaged.

One woman had just about given up on a man she was daydreaming about when she joined a live course I was teaching.

I helped her apply these steps to the relationship, and things perked up in a hurry.

Before she knew it, they had a standing Saturday night date; he bought tickets for a concert 4 months in advance and was whisking her away on a ski vacation with friends that winter.

I think you may already be signed up for the upcoming “Create-a-Mate” Course and I can’t wait to help you.

But if not, I’d grab a space while they’re still available.

It’s the best chance to work with me personally, other than my full and much more expensive private coaching.

I’m blessing you! This is very easy to fix and I trust that we handle it together to get just what you want.
Sending you love & support!


Q: Dear Kathryn,
I recently wrote you a really long... question. Here is my shortened version. [note: thanks for that]

You say not to get too attached to one person as that is one of the biggest blocks.

You also say to keep hope and excitement and fun and lightness about new love...

What do I do when the reason I have hope and excitement IS BECAUSE of this one person who I have a lot of trouble releasing? Although I have released him many times, he keeps in my heart and still... keeps me excited for love.

How does the dream of him keep me alive?

And what do I do when now, after 2+ years of dreaming of him, now there is someone who actually IS interested in me... and I feel like I'd be cheating on the first guy?

If I continue to pursue the new guy...

How can I explore the new guy while having this dent in my heart for the first guy?!

It feels like I am being unfaithful to him even though we connected so beautifully over 2 years ago and ever since have had only some private message Facebook communication mostly started by me and other than that, only actually seeing him a couple times very briefly?

How do I go forward with these conflicting feelings?

I feel my heart is breaking by letting go of the first guy but the new guy is wonderful and gives me so much attention and love... but with him it feels more innocent.

The first guy felt like nothing in this world, there was pure magic there and it all felt very real and grounded too.

Why do I hold out for the guy who isn't giving anything to me?

Thank you, Kathryn!!!! You have been helping me beyond words! My life has completely shifted by listening to all your recordings. Eternal thanks!!!

I love you and appreciate you more than words!!!!!!

A: Thanks for writing!

I've got a few points to help you with this situation. And I'm really sorry you've suffered for it

 DO NOT ever feel guilty or like you're betraying someone you're not committed to. It is a waste of time and super misplaced sense of unfairness.

 I hate to say this but often, when we get stuck on unavailable folks, it's a great way to keep US unavailable. I would look at that.

 Try to give the new guy a chance. He is showing up for you, and that's way more attractive than someone who is not.

 I would not do most of the heavy lifting in relationship ever again -- like being the one to initiate most of the contact. We want to make sure it's requited love. Besides, there's a SO much more effective way to attract someone and have them coming to you.

I do hope you'll tune into my free class next week "Become Irresistible".

You'll learn how to magnetize anyone you want -- including the one who has not been showing up -- to have love drop in your lap rather than have to force something into happening.

I'm sending you love & support -- so happy my work has been helping you :)