Why Being Lonely is a Good Thing

If you are single and feel moments of loneliness, this is a good thing. It is indicative that you have a vacuum in your life, a space for love to come into. Being lonely means that you are wide open for The One.

This void, though it may feel empty and hard to deal with, is something to be guarded. The temptation may be to fill the loneliness with anything that comes along like a casual date or an old flame, but avoid doing so.

You don't want to start seeing someone just to fill the loneliness. It would be easy for you to try and make someone fit in there, but instead, imagine that this loneliness is a treasured place within you, only to be filled by your One, your soulmate. Treat it as sacred and don't easily let someone into this space.

In moments where your loneliness flairs, try the following:

1. Take a moment to be grateful that you feel lonely, knowing that the opening for your soulmate is intact and magnetizing him or her to you.

2. Send love to your soulmate wherever (s)he may be, knowing that you'll be together soon.

3. Release any impulse to take a stopgap measure to fill the loneliness such as late night dialing or making a date with someone you're not that interested in. Better to daydream about your soulmate instead.

4. Don't respond to a feeling of loneliness by letting it get you into a desperate state. Desperation repels, and it can lead you to bad decisions.The more you can start labeling your loneliness "good," the sooner you will be with your love, as this loneliness is a powerful attractor for your soulmate.

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Heartbreak Corner: The Biggest Delay to Love

There are numerous things that can delay love for you. In fact, ANY time you have a negative thought about love, you may delay it. But the biggest delay of all is hanging on to a past love.

The attachment that we can get to an ex can be as powerful as that we had to our parents as infants and can be tough to shake. And it can keep you unknowingly UNAVAILABLE for your soulmate.

There is also the tendency to think of a past love as the best you could ever hope for (at least until you meet someone better, your soulmate.) Keep in mind that the best is yet to come, and this faith can make it much easier to let go so you can be free for full-on, 100% right love.  

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A term that you often hear in the singles world is dating "out of your league". If you’ve been doing my work for a while, you can predict what I’m about to say.

There is no such thing as dating out of your league. We are all equals and any concept that negates that truth is doomed to fail. But too many buy into it, getting intimidated by someone they find hot (who by the way, is MOST LIKELY to be your soulmate). Thinking this way needlessly delays love.

The most effective thing you can do to come together with your soulmate is to get RID of limited thinking like this – it can hold you back. How?

1. Shore up your self-esteem. The more you elevate your sense of self-worth (as opposed to tearing your love interest down, something that some dating systems advocate!), the easier it will be to approach and connect with someone you find attractive.

2. Strive to see those you have deemed intimidating as human, just like you. They’re breathing the same air, need to be heard and may just be your soulmate, since one indicator of soulmate love is crackling chemistry.

3. Don’t cast yourself as undeserving feeling like you have to EARN love or bend over backwards to make it work. You deserve love just by your very existence and working for it sets up a bad dynamic.

4. Get USED to connecting with those you find hot. Look into their eyes, give a little smile, perhaps a wink and even say something. The more you practice, the more you’ll be able to realize that no one is ever too good for you.



May 31st, 2011

Julian and Me in a Caribbean Cave

It has been a whirlwind of a month that saw us leaving Antigua to spend our last two weeks in the Caribbean in the Virgin Islands. Six islands in two weeks might have been pushing it but it was great! Then, back to the US after 5 months in the Caribbean to attend my firstborn, Calvin's, college graduation in Monterey (congrats, honey!) and then it was off to Las Vegas to warm up.