Hey there, it's Kathryn and happy Valentine's Day!

Today's Q & A is an answer to what I did when I had my lonely Valentine's Days, and I hope it will help you, too

Have a great one!


Q:  Kathryn, you mentioned that you suffered through many lonely Valentine's Days, but right before your husband came, you made it into a day of hope. Can you tell me how you did that?

A: It was a process of gaining more faith. I accepted that for the time being, I was single, but affirmed that I would soon have Valentine's Day with my One. (And what I'd add for you is the reminder that once you're with your soulmate, it will make up for every lonely Valentine's Day you've had.)

Next, I would make sure to send some love to my guy on February 14th, wherever he was in the world (In hindsight, I now know he was not far away & looking for me, too).

Finally, I bought him a card that I knew I would one day give him. (Sure enough, I did give it to him: on our wedding day. And he shed a tear over it!) 

I suggest you do the same: send some love and buy your One a card or gift for future delivery. It's a great act of faith, and I"ll bet it'll make you feel good, as it did for me.

I bless you for using this day to hasten your journey into the arms of love.

Are you single and kind of dreading Valentine's Day? You are not alone. I have tons of emails every year from people in your same boat so take comfort from that. I'd like to help by reminding you of the following:

1. Valentine's Day was created by a chocolate company! It is a manufactured holiday and while, yes, it's fun to send love reminders to people, it is JUST ANOTHER DAY. When you are in love, you celebrate regularly and don't need a special day to remind you. And when you're single, you may think, "bah, humbug!" and that's just fine.

2. The majority of Valentines and even flowers go out to non-sweethearts. More flowers and remembrances are sent and received by students, teachers and family members than by romantic partners. So claim this holiday for YOU whether you've met a romantic soulmate or not. And remember that there are non-romantic soulmates such as pets, parents, friends, children and even siblings so tap into that love energy which connects you to the same unconditional love that you will feel when you come together with your One.

3. Make a point to send out love to the soulmate you haven't met yet. Buy them a card to give them later or spend a few moments thinking of them and sending a message to them on the inner.

4. Every one of us has been the only office worker NOT to receive flowers on an occasion. This day is in NO way a competition to see if you're loved or not. Of COURSE you are! So remove your ego from being in such a competition and if anyone wants to rub it in, feel bad for them that they would need to resort to such a low vibe.

5. When you are with your One, it will make up for EVERY bad Valentine's day you ever had. If this one isn't that great, it will get healed in the future, I promise!

Have a good one, and I bless you for love beyond your wildest dreams!


Q: Kathryn, I've been doing your meditations and I feel like I'm doing them wrong. I'm really bad at trying to vision things. Sometimes my mind wanders. And on top of that, when you ask me what I want, I just draw a blank.

Is this going to stop me from manifesting? Is there something wrong with me?!

I'm worried, and I think when I was growing up, I just learned to do what I was told without a thought to what I might want to do. Is that why it's so hard?

A: There's no wrong way to do the meditations! There are so many levels built into them, that they will meet you wherever you are. They are a form of hypnosis.

Did you ever hear the story about the sleeping guy in an Atlanta "Manifesting Love" workshop? He fell asleep during the meditation (as so many do -- it's why we developed the Sleep Kit - LOL!). We literally could not wake him up after the meditation, so we just left him to sleep throughout the rest of the workshop. He finally got up at the end -- when we were packing to go -- and acting like nothing was amiss, he left. Four months later, I got an email telling me he was engaged!!

Conclusion: you can do these meditations and fall asleep, you can let your mind wander or you can feel nothing . . . and yet in all of these cases, it has still helped folks manifest. So, don't worry about it. They evoke a magic and grace in your life. You don't have to do things "just so" (a perfectionist tendency) in order for them to work.

About the pattern of just going along as a child. This is exactly how so many I work with break through. Very rarely does anyone ask us when growing up: "What do YOU want?" So some of us just blank out and give up. When we finally ask ourselves what we want, it's such a shut-down place, we have no clue.
But your job is to open up to the fact that you're a grown-up now who can create anything you want -- once you figure out what that is. It's such a fun journey to get there, so just keep exploring your choices.

I'm sending you SO much love and support to realize you get what you want and are allowed to have it. And don't have to get things just right in order to call forth the love you want.