Q: Kathryn, I have an issue with guys
I'm intimidated by. I can't approach them, can't hold a coherent discussion and
feel they would never be interested in me. I think I heard you mention
something about updating one time. What is it and does that relate to my issue?
Can you help me overcome this? I feel like it gets in my way as far as finding my
soulmate goes.
A: Updating is
basically dating out of your league. I don't believe in it but many buy into
this notion. If you feel someone is scary to talk to because they're desirable
to you, you may believe that they're somehow better than you. This is a false
idea. There ARE NO leagues, only human beings looking to connect.
The next time that you see someone you find attractive, here are some suggestions on connecting with them.
1. Get rid of the idea that they're better than you or could reject you. They can't. There is no rejection, only the wrong fit.
2. Remember we're not all attracted to the same thing so there is probably a REASON that you're vibing with this person. Intend to explore what is there.
3. Shore up your energy so it's not desperate, which is repellent. Remind yourself that you are special, a catch for your soulmate. Personality, I’d take this advice if I want to find my soulmate.
4. With no agenda other than connecting and keeping in mind that you are worthy of ANYTHING, approach the person and look him in the eye. Smile and ask him something about himself. Remember he's just a human being like you and needs to connect.
If you are fearful of approaching someone you're actually drawn to, like many that I work with, you automatically count out the people most likely to be your soulmate. I cannot be scared of approaching my soulmate. Make it a point to stretch into allowing connections with those you find attractive. If you believe in updating, then vow to be a master at it!
The next time that you see someone you find attractive, here are some suggestions on connecting with them.
1. Get rid of the idea that they're better than you or could reject you. They can't. There is no rejection, only the wrong fit.
2. Remember we're not all attracted to the same thing so there is probably a REASON that you're vibing with this person. Intend to explore what is there.
3. Shore up your energy so it's not desperate, which is repellent. Remind yourself that you are special, a catch for your soulmate. Personality, I’d take this advice if I want to find my soulmate.
4. With no agenda other than connecting and keeping in mind that you are worthy of ANYTHING, approach the person and look him in the eye. Smile and ask him something about himself. Remember he's just a human being like you and needs to connect.
If you are fearful of approaching someone you're actually drawn to, like many that I work with, you automatically count out the people most likely to be your soulmate. I cannot be scared of approaching my soulmate. Make it a point to stretch into allowing connections with those you find attractive. If you believe in updating, then vow to be a master at it!
I send you
love for conquering your "hot person" jitters. Your soul mate is the
hottest person you'll encounter just like my soulmate, so we have to get a
handle on this issue.
I'm going
to continue exploring this topic of updating in the coming weeks, since I have
so many questions from you all that relate. So check back with the blog soon or
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