Step #3 to date out of your league is an attitude adjustment

In Steps 1 and 2, we worked on how you think of yourself, boosting your self-image and changing your script

In Step 3, we make a thought correction that will trip you up until it's dealt with

Deciding who is out of your league is very arbitrary

Ever saw a person who you were surprised to see with someone hot and desirable?

And had the thought "How did SHE get HIM?!"?
This is an example of incorrect thinking

You made a judgment call that he was too good for her

Deeming anyone out of your league is the same random categorization of someone as too good for you

We need to change this!

So what is Step #3?

Think of the hot ones differently

- WARNING - if you do not take this step, then even if you get someone hot noticing you, it is impossible to keep him

- Here's the truth -- if you think of this hot person as someone out of your league

- If you are intimidated by him . . . attraction cannot flourish

- Before you exchange a single word, he is sensing your energy

- If you don't think of him as someone you could get, he will not notice you

- I'm about to show you how to create mindblowing attraction

- But you can't get out the gate if you've got him on a pedestal


The losing thought is to feel this person is unattainable

In the first 2 steps to dating out of your league, we got you ready to interact

Now as you encounter the ones you think are out of your league  . .

 You need to see them as someone well within range for you

 Remember they're only human. They have their own insecurities

 And they will not even consider someone who feels less than them

 So when you see him, you need to remind yourself he is your equal

 He is in your range

 He is another human being looking for a connection


One of my original Bootcamp clients was quite the socialite

But when it came to the hot, quality guys, she would get completely tongue-tied

So we did the steps that I'm teaching you in this series

She started seeing guys as in her league, seeing their humanity and vulnerability

This client also had a celebrity crush

She could not believe when she actually met this famous guy at a party her publicist friend took her to

She had been practicing what I taught her, and caught his eye

My client was taken aback for a moment, but then remembered to look at this celebrity as an equal

Her crush actually approached her and struck up a conversation

They dated for several months until she realized he was really self-centered

But turning the head of her long-time crush helped give her the confidence to meet her "person" shortly after, a guy who she never, ever could have talked to before

He would have intimidated her, and never would have noticed her until she took Step #3

The two are now long married with 3 children


1. Start looking at people you have thought were out of your league differently

2. Notice what you think of them, how your body feels, any nervousness and how high the pedestal is you're putting them on

3. Do an in-the-moment course correction to see them as equals, as someone who could use a connection -- like you

4. Concentrate on feeling worthy and do remind yourself that deeming them above you is WRONG

Once you do, here's the best part: You will truly get this.

You'll know how to have people notice you, chase you down.

We'll get rid of anything you have that is in the way of you coming together with your "person" -- even if he's someone you thought was out of your league

I have never seen anyone have more fun than those who learn how to attract love and never again have to chase or be rejected or have heartbreak ever again

The biggest problem those who learn this have is getting used to how good things get

Step #2 to date out of your league comes from a phenomenon I first noticed when teaching workshops and seeing private clients

In workshops, we did an exercise of looking into a person's eyes without saying a word

It was UNCANNY how much people could know about each other just from looking before a word was said

And in seeing private clients, I noticed some clients had such a strong energy, I could barely resist it

For example, one client was convinced she was a "bad girl" and exuded that energy so strongly, I was buying into it

Until I shook myself out of it

But if a trained mental health professional can almost fall prey to this energy, can you imagine how much the average person would buy into the what you think about yourself?!

What you think about yourself informs the energy you exude

Which in turn tells people exactly how to think about you and treat you


So what is Step #2?

Change Your Script

- A "script" is the energy we exude that tells others how to think of us and how to treat us

- Felt invisible? You probably have a script that says "ignore me"

- Attract unavailable guys? You have a script that says "I'll settle for crumbs"

- Keep getting victimized in love? You have a script that says "Kick me"

- I have a 5 step script changing process that works wonders

- In just a couple of hours, you can turn from an overlooked wall flower into a hot commodity


My 5 step process is something I only teach those working with me -- it takes some guidance

But let me give you a couple of ways to start changing your script now

 We need to find the script you've got now. You can tell by how you're treated

 Then, we must get RID of your old limiting script

 And sub it with the script you want


At around the 10 minute mark in the "Attract the One You Want" free class, I described a client I worked with who was brutal with herself

Her script said "Kick me," and her love life reflected that

We did the 5 step script-changing process, and it changed everything

Suddenly, she was getting noticed, being honored and even sought after for the first time

She had her eye on a guy at church, and he start noticing her after we changed her script

They dated, and he ended up BEGGING HER to be his girlfriend

Changing your script is a powerful thing


1. Notice any pattern you have of being treated in a way you don't like. That will tell your script, and I would then let go of it

2. Think of how you WANT to be treated instead - that will be your new script

3. Practice taking your script out on a test run, exuding that different energy and notice how you are treated differently

Stay tuned for Step #3 of Dating Out of Your League next week. You'll learn the secret to having guys "out of your league" look at you like you're a mouth-watering dessert that they can't wait to sample