After working with tens of thousands of people for years on dating issues, I have no doubt what the most difficult aspect of dating is. It is so painful for some that they eschew dating altogether even if it means they won’t find love.

THE ANSWER: The not knowing as you go through the process. Yes, being vulnerable, a requirement for love, and not being able to foresee how love will show up drives people mad. And for no good reason!

How to get over this serious difficulty? Change your thinking about it.

1. Realize it’s exhilarating. Part of the excitement of falling in love is the unpredictability and the anticipation. No one would skip this part when they finally meet their One.

2. Deepen your faith. Remind yourself that love is a done deal for you and will show up in the perfect way (even if your love life looks DOA right now). It will make this process less maddening. You do get love for sure – remember that!

3. Remember: that you can’t skip the process but the end result is worth it. 99% of those I work with would probably skip dating if they could and just go get married (seriously). But of course, this isn't possible. Even if the next person you date is your soulmate (& by all means, affirm this if it’s what you want), you still have to undergo the getting-to-know-you phase, otherwise known as dating.

I bless you for finding an easy way to date – the payoff is worth it!

Talk to you soon!

love,
Kathryn

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Wednesday, April 14th, 2010

Hong Kong (Victoria) Harbour

Hi! We are back from Hong Kong! As promised, I’m posting some photos here. It was an amazing trip, though a bit chilly (we bought jackets!). Jon and I are scooting to explore 4 other Philippines islands before we leave, and we all are dropping by Beijing on our way back to the U.S.

 

Julian and Me, Hong Kong Doubledecker

Kids Stuff! Ocean Park, Hong Kong

So many people ask me: "Do I have to get on-line?" My answer is below.

3 Bad Reasons to Date On-Line

Do you have to on-line date? No, you don't. A minuscule percentage of people meet their soulmate on-line while 80% of those who say they're with their soulmate found them right under their noses. Here are three BAD reasons to put your profile on a matchmaking website.

1. Your friends tell you it's mandatory. Your friends don't know what is right for you, and on-line dating is not for everyone.

2. You are desperate & worried you'll never meet someone. Try to wait until you're centered to make such a decision. Nothing good comes out of desperation.

3. You think on-line is the perfect place for your touched-up photo & carefully crafted profile to land the love of your dreams. Please. While almost 90% of people on-line supposedly fudge their profiles with an old photo or misrepresent their age, being honest is a statement to the world that you are enough as is (and the quickest way to find your soulmate on-line).

Two GOOD reasons to on-line date?

1. To tell the Universe that you're ready for love.

2. To see the abundance of available, appealing single people out there.

As millions know, attracting love does not require on-line dating EVER, but if you do so, do it for the right reasons and with the right energy.


love,
Kathryn

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March 23, 2010

At Our Boracay Villa

We are heading to Hong Kong for Spring Break and are unbelievably excited about it. It has been a lifelong dream of mine to go there, and our children have been asking to go to Hong Kong Disney for three years.

We're taking our nanny, who has never flown before. She'll give us a chance to do some grownup things while she takes the children and is accompanying us on all of the tours and fun. She's excited, too!