If you are sick to death of being attached to someone who is not showing up, staying in a crazy love situation that has you off-balance or always falling for unavailable people and then being unable to shake the feelings for them, then I challenge you to try something different this year.

You really can let your past be your past, and turn over a new leaf. And I want this for you more than you know.

I recently got an email from a woman who spent 15 years of her life hanging on to past relationships while all she wanted was her true love. At age 40, weary of being so frustrated, she did my releasing work with a vengeance, met a whole new breed of guy (hot, available, into her), and it just WENT. She is now engaged, planning a fall wedding, a Moroccan honeymoon and starting a family quickly.

You can do this, too, no matter how wretched it has been. First comes the resolve, then the release and finally, the all-important replacement step.