In my book LOVE WILL FIND YOU, I say that sex is not important. (I got a lot of flack for that: LOL!) Let me clarify. It is not the make or break of a marriage. It does not guarantee a happy marriage. However, our bodies are set up to have sex and do have a natural sex drive that needs to be honored even though it's not the key to a happy marriage.

I find that your soulmate is someone with whom you have crackling chemistry so the sex tends to be good.

If there are sexual differences and you're sure you're with your soulmate, I would NOT try to make someone meet your needs if they don't want to. Rather settle into the sexual dynamic present between you and enjoy it. Understanding is one of the keys to a happy marriage.